Love isn’t a feeling two people have for each other or a group of people share with one another. Love is energy, a vibration, a frequency. And just like the frequency of a radio station, broadcasting 24/7, we can tune into the love frequency using the receptor deep inside our heart. To access this high vibration, we need to tune out of the lower frequencies of guilt, shame, fear, pride and logical reason, in order to hear, receive and radiate love.
The human ego has a natural tendency to move toward pleasure and away from pain. That being said, the ego often finds itself in uncomfortable and unpleasant situations. From early childhood we develop coping mechanisms to avoid the stress and discomfort, but not always in the healthiest ways. Since the ego functions most often using the logical mind, the tendency is to reduce options through judgment and analysis, rather than expand our consciousness to seek growth and amplified awareness.
The human soul seeks wholeness, regardless of pain or pleasure. The soul seeks to raise consciousness to acquire broader vision, moving into the realm of infinite possibility for growth. So the ego and soul are often at odds – causing internal conflict and external hostility.
By avoiding lower frequencies of judgment, blame and anger, the human being, guided by the soul (and quieting the ego), can access forgiveness, love, joy, gratitude and peace, which in turn release stress and discomfort. In this way the soul and ego come into harmony.
Most humans long for love but seek pleasure rather than the true energy of Love. When meeting a romantic partner we often feel a heart connection that automatically tunes us into the frequency of Love. But staying there can often be challenging when the mind encounters doubt and fear. The ego worries that it cannot live up to the other’s expectations or worries its own expectations will not be met. Judgment, blame and anger return and access to love diminishes or disappears. “Love” then becomes the term used to get our needs met by the other.
By consciously allowing the heart “receptor” to stay open to the energy of Love, we can more easily recognize our feelings and needs without projecting them on to someone else to deliver. We can listen to the wisdom of the soul, acquired through many lifetimes, to help us learn how to meet our own needs, heal our own wounds and accept whatever the other can offer without judgment or blame, making our own choices accordingly.
As humans we have choices. The stories we tell ourselves, reflect those choices. Are the stories about betrayal and abandonment? Are they about situations and people that cause us anger and resentment? These stories keep us in lower frequencies, causing stress and discomfort, rather than the pleasure we seek. Different stories (using the same “facts”) can raise our vibrational level to heal and grow – moving through the discomfort into deeper understanding. This is how we access the frequency of Love and gain more compassion for ourselves and others.
When we can change the stories from being trapped in suffering and blame, into testimonies of movement toward wholeness, then we can understand the nature of love and the greater purpose of our lives.